Marriage & Martial Problems

4,5,8 marriage Dates...

Generally as per the ancient Hindu culture the wedding card starts with some auspicious sloka like “vagartha Viva Sampruktau” the main intention of starting the wedding card with such auspicious sloka is that the new couple should lead happy marital life like God Rama and Sita & Parvathi and Parameshwara. During the marriage also the purohit makes the groom to spell “Dharmecha, Arthecha nathi charami” which means that whatever be future situations and circumstances, the groom will not leave the bride in isolation.In contra to all such above auspicious slokas and promises, now –a-days some marriages are turning to failures for which the reasons are – to be explored while the marriage is actually meant to be heaven with mutual love, affection and Happiness. In some cases such marriage is turning to be hell filling the lives of the couple with sorrow and grief.

In this context there arises a question why such failures are taking place even in case of arranged marriages in which the marriages are celebrated after following all the procedures such as verfication of compatibility etc.,of the birth charts of the bride and the groom. I received a number of such questions both from inland as well as abroad. The matter came for discussion in many national and international seminars.

This was the main topic in the National seminars at New Delhi in Sep’1996, in April 1997 held at Mumbai, in the Inter National Congress Meeting during Dec’1997, in the National Astrological Seminar held at Hyderabad during 1998 which was presided by the world famous Hindu Astrologers Dr. B.V. Raman. As number of marriages are going to be celebrated in the coming few months, I feel this to be appropriate time to bring this research oriented feature before the learned public so that the merits and demerits can be thoroughly discussed at an appropriate time.

While one life partner (she) wants to with (her/his) husband the other partner, the second one the husband wants to leave spouse, making the first person to leave him or her as the case may be with un wanted deeds and decisions.

The main aim of marriage is that the couple should have mutual understanding to lead a happy marital life in odds and eves. In such a case there should be good compatibility between the wife and husband. Compatibility means tallying of physical and mental temperament of the couple.

One fact is to be expressed in this context after personally verifying some hundreds of similar cases in Andhra Pradesh as well as in other states. Marriages are being celebrated after spending lakhs of rupees towards dowry, presentations, decoration and feasts etc., Elders are prepared to spend such huge amounts for all the things connected to marriage, But when the question of verification of horoscopes compatibility between the couple, they are just taking the issue very light with some purohiths astrologers or unqualified.

One can easily guess the outs come of such consolations with inexperienced people. I even observed that the Muhurtam in cases of such failed marriages were celebrated completely in auspicious days.

It is also a fact that the purohit in such context is not given full freedom to fix up a Muhurtham as he originally feels it to be. The elders of the marriage party press him to fix up preferably on a Sunday or within 10 to 15 days time on the plea that the bride groom does not have much vacation as he is expected to come from U.S or so. Some elders even compel the purohit to keep the muhurtham at around 7pm to 8pm, so that there would not be any dislocation to office work and people who attend the function can return after taking the dinner in time. Thus there will be lot of restrictions for the purohit to fix up the muhurtham. The results leads to a fixing up of a muhurtham by the purohits, suitable to the requirements of both the parties without giving preference to the auspiciousness of the muhurta the purohit, in view of his poverty and for his livelihood, is bowing down his head before the marriage parties and fixing up the muhurtam preferably suitable to their requirements only.

Regarding verification of compatibility, some so-called astrologers who are actually beginners are just verifying the birth stars of the bride and groom and the compatibility points. This literature is available in any ordinary almac and is quite insufficient to come to a correct conclusion.

There are good astrologers who know the subject thoroughly. Such scholars invest huge amounts to acquire standard astrological literature. In addition they spend most of their time for the sake of study of astrology with dedication. They do not compromise to the restrictions of the marriage parties as stated above and they discuss frankly with the marriage parties about the suitability of the auspicious Muhurtham in view of astrological rules. They are to be called as real well wishers of the would be couple. It is sufficient if one such astrologer live in each village. I pay my humble respect to such good astrologers in this context.

It also became a practice for the parents of the bridegroom to present a false and corrected horoscope of their child whenever the original chart of their child is defective.

In such cases expert astrologers only can detect the fact by thorough study of such chart. Others can simple declare compatibility based on such wrong charts. Thus it is highly essential that the astrologer should feel moral and social responsibility and advice the public with frank and real position. I earnestly feel that a wrong prediction can be ensured in case of normal activities of a boy and girl and the boy should be matching to each other. Thus their ruling planets should have mutual friendship. In such cases their temperament tally will have mutual understanding also. Then only they can be treated as “made for each other”.

There are generally three types of compatibilities. First type of compatibility particularly where the birth details of either the boy or the girl are not available. The above said pair has to face some problems as enlisted below.

1. One partner exhibits patience due to which the couple can draw their marital life up to some duration.
2. After wards some partners feel disgusted.
3. This may lead to separation or divorce.
4. Or they, may continue to lead that unhappy marital life for the fear of the society and their parents sake.
5. Or they may even continue to live together unhappy for the sake of their children.

When the patience reaches its climax the couple is left with no option except to go to a court of law for divorce. Till such time the couple life wife and husband pretend like a couple in the looks of the society. But not as a couple in actual sense inherently. Thus they can be named as “acting couple”. It is not an exaggeration to say that such wives and husbands are existing to a tune of 90% in the present society.

As an example a male may get a very good name in the society while his wife may be for not bestowing proper attention to her and her children.

Second type of compatibility: In this example each name is not suitable to the other's name. There is mutual enmity between the planets of both the wife and the husband. They always combat each other. If their date of marriage is also not in correlation with their names and vibrations it is sure that they both will opt for separation in fact I observed that couple having 4,5 and 8 as their marriage dates approached the court for separation in a number of cases. Here even if individually they are good natured, they do not have good compatibility resulting. I to separation.

Third type of compatibility:-In this example the name, date of birth of both boy and the girl have good compatibility and the date of marriage or Muhurtam also will be good in vibration in accordance with their names and date of birth. Such wife and husband lead happy marital life through out their life period.

Thus Numerology can be utilized for verification of the boy and girl to bless them to have a long happy marital life. This is the greatness of Numerology.

Now I shall explain you about 4,5,8 dates of marriage. Those who marry on 4th, 13th, 22nd and 31stor the sum total of their marriage date, means, date month and the year, when it comes 4 digit, they will face financial problems through out their lives. The point to be noted is when they show their individual horoscopes they would be O.K. So, in spite of the positive prediction of astrology of their, individual birth charts, the results are negative, then such couple will fight with each other just on financial disturbances and many of them get separated. In a nut shell, number 4 of the marriage date creates financial problems and leads to separation.

5th as marriage date: those who marry on 5th, 14th and 23rd or when the total marriage date comes to number 5 digit ,then the couple gets separated by misunderstanding, egoistic arguments, and finally get divorced. Coming to 8th as marriage date or 17th or 26th or when the total marriage date comes to no. 8 then the separation time, 1 in 8 years from the date of marriage and such separation will be horrible, means wife gets mental & physical torture ,food poisoning and separation by death of the partners and sometimes both. All dowry deaths belong to this category. This is the practical research truth prevailing in the present society.

This topic has got importance from society point of view as well as anthropology. You can observe all these incidents in daily newspapers, no proof, no evidence are required in this aspect.

Initially I have received this information from madras {Tamilnadu } based on only 4,5,8 dates. Later I observed even the total marriage date is also effective and my second point of observation on deep research, these 4, 5,8are not auspicious dates, each number has its own style of separation as I mentioned above. And last but not least is fixing the marriage dates I mean “muhurath” as per traditional astrology is giving bad effect, in this aspect I found even famous traditional astrology timing of marriage” is also failed several times. I feel the time has come for astrologers to think deeply and realize the social responsibility to give importance to this divine subject of astrology.